What couples are unable to comprehend is those wedding memories generated on that blessed day, can quickly turn to ugly, forgetful moments when the subject of divorce comes up. So why not empower yourself and your marriage with a relationship coach? Successful couples realize that good, skill based pre-marriage education can reduce the risk of divorce, leading to a significantly happier marriage. It can also reduce the stress during the pre-wedding period and it can be fun.

So how would you know if you need to consult with a skilled pre-marital coach or attend a pre-marital class?

Here are 5 questions to ask that can help in your decision:

• Have we established concrete goals on the type of marriage we want? – This topic is usually never discussed, but is the most important. Information like when do we want to start a family, what type of lifestyle do we want to live and household management can cause constant conflict and resentment in a marriage.

• Are we aware of each other’s credit status and do we have a mutual financial plan? Very important if one is more financially sound than the other. Once you’re joined in holy matrimony an individual’s financial history comes with it, so it better to be informed ahead of time.

• Are we clear how spirituality will play a role in our marriage? Having a belief system is very important and can do a lot to minimize the obstacles that marriage bring. When things get difficult you want to be able to turn to a pastor, rabbi or spiritual leader for guidance or support. If one is more spiritual than the other it can lead to issues.

• Am I clear on what type of sexual relationship I want and need from my partner? Sex and passion for your partner ebb and flow within any marriage relationship. If you aren’t comfortable discussing what you want and need from your partner sexually, it may cause someone to stray in the marriage.

• Do I understand my partners communication style and how they handle conflict? Understanding how your partner communicates will help minimize conflict and to keep arguments from escalating to outbursts that eventually damage the marriage. Conflicts in marriage are inevitable, but violent, emotional confrontations can end marriages.

If you found yourself scratching your head around any of these areas, it might be time to hire a coach. Coaching could help you look at your life and your upcoming wedding from a different viewpoint. Allowing a coach to help you and your spouse develop a plan for marriage will not only benefit you and your spouse, but also your family, friends and future children.